Today we dispel that myth and confirm the truth that asking for help and seeking help shows strength, confidence, and resourcefulness!
Over the past few years, I’ve come to value the importance of asking for help in challenging times.
I say this because, there was a time where asking others for help was a pain point for myself because of a past riddled with traumatic experiences of asking for help, and nobody came to the rescue.
My response to that trauma was to become self-reliant and carry the weight alone. If I couldn’t handle it on my own, it just wasn’t happening.
The problem with that mindset is that after awhile, the self reliance turned into a form of pride and the burden of carrying everything on my shoulders alone become too much to bare and took a toll on me emotionally and mentally.
It wasn’t until a few years ago, that I learned the concept of total dependence on God and the interdependence of Man that God can use to intervene in our situations here on the Earth.
It was then, that I took the weight off of myself, gave my concerns, worry, and burdens to God and asked for help.
Choosing to seek help, broke off a lot of strongholds and helped me overcome a level of disappointment from a past riddled in trauma. It dispelled the lie that I was a burden to others. It also helped me to extend grace to others who I held to unspoken expectations.
Seeking help and expressing your needs are important, because people aren’t mind readers. People won’t know what you need until you ask them and/or share with them how they can support you.
You don’t have to suffer in silence. You don’t have to bear the weight alone. Help is available. God sent people to help us better see His goodness and love. When we reject the help and influence of others, life takes on significant burden and hardship. This is not how we are meant to live!
“ two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” - Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
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Candice Phillips, M.S, BCMHC
Christian Life + Mental Health Coach
Advocate for Healing, Growth, and Transformation